| Location | Caerphilly, South Wales |
| Age | 77 years |
| Date of Birth | 8/1926 |
| Date of Death | 5/2004 |
| Visitors | 758 since 27/10/2006 |
| Creator |
John Kenneth Alexander
13th August 1926 - 9th May 2004
Aged 77 yrs
My beloved Da was a keen miner who worked in the Welsh Mines. A keen miner he spent his entire life working for his family that included my mum Christine, his other daughters Carol & Mary and his son David.
I grew up with my Da living back to back. I have fond memories of going for walks up town with him or going over the park where I would play on the swing and the see-saw and my beloved Da would watch on. If you go back to my school books or that of my three brothers, Gareth, Adam & Craig you will see the familiar story of us going for lunch on a Sunday with my nan and Da, where we would have yorkshire pudding nan had made in a massive tin.
My Da leaves behind his beloved wife, Mary who misses him dearly and has never been the same since all our live crumbled on that awful day. He also leaves his daughter and son in law Chris & Paul who is fondly called his son. His second daughter Carol & son in law Tony and his final daughter Mary and his son in law Geraint. My Da also leaves behind his son David and his daughter in law June. David is fondly known as my Uncle Dai and so often I can see my Da's character in him.
Da also leaves behind many grandchildren - Craig, Adam, Caroline, Gareth, Debbie, Laura, Gemma, Claire, Geraint, Carly, Ryan, Alex, Sam & Sophie.
He is also greatly missed by his great grandchildren - Lauren, Josh and Ben who were so likely to have known the best great grandad this world has ever known. Since my Da passed he has sent us two other angels, Megan and Olivia and another is on the way . . . .
On the day my Da passed away my mum and I were called over as Da had had a fall and couldn't get up. We rushed over and I helped pick him up. I called the ambulance to be safe. All my Da said was can I come back home tonight something they reassured him. My Da believed he would be going back to my nan he affectionatly called Elvira.
I rang around everyone but my dad and brothers were on a trip. My aunty came and we sat and waited as they observed him in the ambualnce. We were then told the words 'he hasn't had a heart attack' and the relief was something I've never felt. My mum and auntie Carol went in the ambulance as I sat with my nan. We had a phonecall which said he had a small pnemonia but would be okay, but a short while later we had a call to say he also had a stomach bleed and that he was leaving us. I had to tell my nan incase she wanted to be with him but was so scared incase the shock caused her to become ill. I so desperatly wanted to be with my Da as he became an angel but I knew he would want me to look after my nan, his beloeved Mary.
I told my nan and she just cried and said I can't see him I need to remember him sat in his chair. My nan and eye watched celebrity stars in their eyes and 'Time to Say Goodbye' played. We heard this before the awful news came that Da was leaving it but it was as if it was Da's message to us and we played it at his funeral. That night I sat in my Da's chair whilst my nan went to bed. There was nothing she could do. I havn't sat in my Da's chair since that night as my nan never leaves it.
Even though I knew what was happening when the call came to say my grandad had fallen asleep at 12:09 in the early hours of 9th May (his grandsons birthday) it hit me so hard. I wasn't expecting this the last thing I said to him was 'I'll see you soon, I love you'. I wasn't ready to say goodbye, but then again I never would be. My grandad had slipped away with his darling children, Chris, Carol, Mary & david with him. His grandson Craig, his wife Carly and his great grandson Ben who was just over 1 years old with him. My Da didn't die alone as he was surrounded by those he loved and the day my Da flew away a part of each us went with him
My Da was the most gentle, caring and kind man. Even now little Ben looks at his picture and knows his Da. I look at Ben and his gentle character and I know my Da lives on in him. Bens characteristics, his eyes, his smile and his cheeky ways. . . . My Da's with us.
We miss him so much but know he is looking after his grandson's & grandaughters little one in heaven. Sadly Adam & his wife to be Hayley miscarried their little one in 2005 and his gradaughter Claire and husband to be lost their little girl due to miscarriage earlier this year. It was so hard to know that two little lives had gone before they'd even begun but I knew they would be with my Da who adored all children. It is a comfort to know they have my Da to love and guide them and teach them all they need to know about how to be good angels on the soft fluffy clouds. . . .
I have written for this my beloved Da, known fondly as the horse racing, T total miner - you came through the accidents in the mines to be taken from those you love so suddenly. We all love and miss you so much Da.
You always use to trip me up as a joke and before your funeral I decided I had to see you at the funeral home. It was so hard - I was 19 and couldn't bear the fact you wouldn't see me get married. I visited you at the funeral home as my last words to you were 'See you soon, I love you' and I had to keep my promise. I saw you at the funeral home and you looked so at peace, I gave you a kiss and as I walked away I tripped. There was nothing to trip over and i smiled to myself . . . . You were still playing your tricks.
Days later we attended your funeral, Calire read a poem, we cried and sang. You would have laughed. Strangely as I walked into the funeral home I placed a single rose on the coffin from me and yet again I tripped. We were all so sad but I was giggling - my Da still playing games. I remember sitting on your knee as you sing 'I'm forever blowing bubbles', Megan and the others would have loved it and I do it to her now. I'll do it to all the little ones in the family and when they grow older I'll tell them about their Da and how special he was but then again they probably met you before you sent them to us as a gift.
Til we meet again . . . . love you
Good night, God Bless
All those who loved you so dearly we will never forget.
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Da
For my Da xxxx...
Looking up at the moon above,
Surrounded by all the people you love,
You can now fly higher than a kite in the sky,
No more pain, no need to cry,
Thank you for teaching us all the things that you know,
For taking us out in the wind, rain and the snow,
Sitting us upon your knee,
It there you would sing to me,
In the chair was your favorite place,
And every time you saw us, there was a smile on your face.
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Gone too soon and missed every day. Love you and Mam forever.
Dad you cannot imagine how much I miss you and Mam - not just at Christmas but every single Day. Christmas days will never be the same again but I do know that you and Dad will be happy back together again. One day in the future we'll all celebrate together again. Love you, miss you, need you always.
God bless you both and keep you safe till we meet again.
All my love and Chritmas Kisses
Your Chris.
xxxxxxxxxxxxx
Missing you at Christmas & always x
I wanted to call you today to say I love you, but your old number is no longer in service. I tried the operator she said sorry I have no number for you. I tried to go to your house, but you don't live there anymore. The post office has no forwarding address. I guess heaven is just too far away. I love you, I miss you. You are in my heart always. Loved ones gone but not forgotten. Merry christmas to all those in heaven..
Love & miss you more than ever but know your smiling again now you have your beloved Mary back in your arms x x x
Missing you at Christmas & always x
I wanted to call you today to say I love you, but your old number is no longer in service. I tried the operator she said sorry I have no number for you. I tried to go to your house, but you don't live there anymore. The post office has no forwarding address. I guess heaven is just too far away. I love you, I miss you. You are in my heart always. Loved ones gone but not forgotten. Merry christmas to all those in heaven..
Love & miss you more than ever but know your smiling again now you have your beloved Mary back in your arms x x x
Thank you x x x
Well Da it took over 7 years but today I got my message. I now know that nan is safe in your arms again and I bet you havn't stopped celebrating. I can just imagine you tutting as your in the middle of nan talking to Nanny Phil and everyone else. Nan always was a bit posh - I fondly remember Sundays when one of her sisters would ring and you'd raise your eyes, lol.
Memories Da they really are worth more than anything else in the world and I figure if I become a little older and start to forget well I'll be close to joining you all again in the party in the sky so can justify then.
As that is likely to be years away I'll keep those memories in my heart and thank you again for letting me know my Da is back with my nan.
Love and miss you today, tomorrow and always x x x x x
Nan's 1st birthday back with you x x x
My darling Da I bet you've got nan a lovely pair of gold earrings and will treat her like a princess today for her birthday - I know you'll be happy now you've got 'your Elvira' back - love and miss you both so much xxxxx
Nan's page x x x
My darling Da,
Nans back with you so thought it only fitting that nan has her page too :-)
http://mary-alexander.gonetoosoon.org/memorial/
Love you both so very very much x x x
Back together forever.
For my darling Man & Dad reunited 3rd September 2011.
Miss you both so very much but know that you are happy and safe back together where you belong.
Miss you forever
Till we meet again,
Love you
Chris
xx
Your beloved Elvira has come home to you tonight x x x x
Well Da our hearts are breaking all over again as nan has made her way back to you tonight.
7 weeks after we heard the devastating news she laughed had some sherry and fell asleep.
Though every part of me feels so empty I can smile through the tears knowing you have nan back in your arms. I know you have spent every moment waiting for your beloved Elvira to come back to nag you and I bet she's already told you off for going so soon.
Tonight Da we havn't just lost nan we have lost our closest connection to you.
I love and miss you both so very very much and my heart is breaking. Please watch over us in the dark days that follow especially mam - it breaks my heart that I can't take away her pain but its only because of how much we love you both.
Will try and sleep now safe in the knowledge that my darling nan is back in the arms of her beloved Johnny.
Love you and miss you both more than I can ever say, until I make that journey home good night god bless x x x x
Tears . . . . x
My darling Da,
Well today we learnt nan has lung cancer and even though we have known for some time something is wrong and we all thought we'd prepared ourselves for the worst it still hit me like a truck.
Nan is my closest connection to you and the thought of both of you being gone is just heart breaking.
When you went so suddenly it was such a shock and I thought I would have given anything to have you back but right now you see the quality of life nan has and I never bring you back if that was the way you had to live, it would be too selfish and too cruel.
In complete honestly Da the day you left nan's side was the day sufferred the most terrible thing that you just can't cure - a broken heart. She misses nagging you but mostly she misses you being there. She has got worse over the years but now I think she just wants to be with you.
On that note I'll say goodnight and god bless and please look over in the coming months and I'll rest easy knowing that even though our hearts are breaking, in heaven your crying tears of joy as you know your beloved Elvira is coming home to you soon.
I love you Da, good night god bless xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Tears . . . . x x x
My darling Da, I've spoken about you a lot lately but even 7 years on I can't look at your face without tears falling down my face. I never met my other grandad but love I had from you made me feel like I the most amazing person in the world in my family and it made me so proud because that person was you, my Da. For all the world I will never forget, never stop missing you but mostly I'll never stop loving you. Until we meet again one day I hope this poem is true . . . . Good night, God bless my darling Da x x x x x x
If tomorrow starts without me,
And I'm not there to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
...All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry the way you did today,
While thinking of the many things, we didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time that you think of me,
I know you'll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready,
In heaven far above,
And that I'd have to leave behind;
All those I dearly love.
But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye
For all my life, I'd always thought,
I didn't want to die.
I had so much to live for, So much left yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad,
I thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday,
Just even for a while,
I'd say good-bye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized,
That this could never be,
For emptiness and memories,
Would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things,
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did,
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven's gates,
I felt so much at home.
When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne,
He said, "This is eternity, And all I've promised you."
Today your life on earth is past,
But here life starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow, But today will always last,
And since each day's the same way,
There's no longing for the past.
You have been so faithful, So trusting and so true.
Though there were times you did some things,
You knew you shouldn't do.
But you have been forgiven, And now at last you're free.
So won't you come and take my hand, And share my life with me?
So when tomorrow starts without me, Don't think we're far apart,
For every time you think of me, I'm right here, in your heart.
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